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Tomorrow is the first day of the new job, oh boy. I’m ready for this. Really.
Tomorrow is the first day of the new job, oh boy. I’m ready for this. Really.
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formalhall:
cal1brations:
so my friend said very loudly to me, with a group of other history majors “yeah i’m not gonna vote bc i’m sure hillary will win”
literally all six of us looked at her and said “vote”
and she goes “ehhh, maybe i will, if i remember to”
and my friend leans in her face and was like “don’t worry. we’ll remind you. bc you need to vote.”
so yeah here’s your friendly fucking reminder that you should have ABSOLUTELY NO PEACE OF MIND and that you need to GET YOUR ASS TO THE POLLING STATION AND VOTE THIS NOVEMBER 8TH.
Do you want Trump/Brexit? Because that’s how you get Trump/Brexit.
Hillary is waning in the polls because of this latest email bullshit. Do not assume everything will be fine. VOTE.
formalhall:
cal1brations:
so my friend said very loudly to me, with a group of other history majors “yeah i’m not gonna vote bc i’m sure hillary will win”
literally all six of us looked at her and said “vote”
and she goes “ehhh, maybe i will, if i remember to”
and my friend leans in her face and was like “don’t worry. we’ll remind you. bc you need to vote.”
so yeah here’s your friendly fucking reminder that you should have ABSOLUTELY NO PEACE OF MIND and that you need to GET YOUR ASS TO THE POLLING STATION AND VOTE THIS NOVEMBER 8TH.
Do you want Trump/Brexit? Because that’s how you get Trump/Brexit.
Hillary is waning in the polls because of this latest email bullshit. Do not assume everything will be fine. VOTE.
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I have things I need to do, but the cat is like a tiny, portable heater and it’s cold right now.
I have things I need to do, but the cat is like a tiny, portable heater and it’s cold right now.
“but what has Hillary ACCOMPLISHED?”
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bicatperson:
Yeah, okay, I’m gonna do one more of these.
Because it’s an ugly sexist myth that Hillary Clinton has never gotten anything done, and Donald keeps saying it anyway, because he knows his supporters will never bother to look it up. (Also to distract from his own record of bankruptcies and lawsuits and not getting an Emmy.)
And even on the left, you get people saying “how can we trust Clinton, even if her positions sound good, how can we know if she’ll follow through?”
Gee, I dunno, maybe we can look at her forty-year track record and extrapolate from there.
(Buckle up, this one’s gonna get long.)
In fact, let’s go back farther, let’s look at Hillary Rodham the Wellesley undergrad, 1965-1969:
This kid pushed for everything from “increasing the number of black students and faculty members” to “a better system for returning library books
Seriously, Hillary did more to advance racial justice while she was in college than Trump has done in his entire life
…and one friend remembers her as the only white person who called with sympathy when MLK was shot
And then let’s talk about Hillary the law student, lawyer, and professor, with some First Lady of Arkansas thrown in:
1972: went undercover to expose secret illegal segregation in Arkansas private schools
1973: went door-to-door for the Children’s Defense Fund, looking for people whose kids weren’t getting to school, and asking why
Turns out the reason was usually “the school can’t handle my kid’s disability”
In fact, pre-1975: “U.S. public schools accommodated only 1 out of 5 children with disabilities. Until that time, many states had laws that explicitly excluded children with certain types of disabilities from attending public school.”
HRC researched and helped prepare the CDF report that was a major catalyst for the US finally making that illegal
1975: you may have heard that this was the year when Hillary was the (court-appointed) defense attorney for a rapist (who pled guilty)
but you probably haven’t heard what she did next:
She founded the first rape-crisis counseling hotline in Arkansas
And this was not a symbolic gesture
This was not something she halfassed for the sake of looking good
Hillary made herself a nationally-renowned expert in the field
Listen: “In 1975, I helped start the first rape crisis center in Atlanta. I was trying to navigate the legal issues related to child assault victims, but the law was so new, I was lost, so I asked for help. Everywhere I called, the experts would say, ‘Do you know Hillary Rodham? She’s who you need to talk to.‘”
1977: co-founded Arkansas Advocates for Children and Families, a nonprofit that’s still going strong
And worked for the Legal Services Corporation – a government service that makes sure low-income people can get attorneys – under Jimmy Carter
Note that conservatives hate the LSC, in part because it was openly serving gay clients in the ‘70s
Seriously, open this Heritage Foundation screed and skip to the bit about “homosexual activists”
(or just read the whole thing, it’s great)
With HRC’s chairmanship, that agency tripled its budget
1979: chair of a committee that expanded healthcare access into rural Arkansas! and helped establish the state’s first neonatal nursery! and a program to help parents of preschool-age at-risk children!
Let’s talk about First Lady Clinton, 1993-2001:
1994: (movie trailer voice) In A World where gay sex was literally illegal … where gay people were thrown out of the military, to laughter and applause on the Senate floor … One Political Couple had a politically radioactive idea: what if we stopped doing that?
1995: Hillary fought for mental health care for Gulf War veterans, back when the Defense Department hadn’t even worked out that Gulf War PTSD and chemical-warfare-related health issues were a thing
1997: long before Obamacare, the Children’s Health Insurance Program
More than 8 million children got health insurance
HRC wasn’t even in Congress yet, and her efforts were pivotal in getting the law passed – and then translating it into action
Same with the Adoption and Safe Families Act, “the most significant change in federal child-protection policy in almost two decades”
Note: “it expands both adoptions and federal assistance in general to a wider population of Americans — single adults, including lesbians and gay men, even single elderly people — people usually left out of family focused agenda”
1999: Followed that up with the Foster Care Independence Act, making sure kids who have aged out of the foster care system could get things like healthcare, housing assistance, and counseling
HRC followed that by immediately getting elected Senator from New York, and then re-elected by an even wider margin, so she served from 2001-2009.
I’m just gonna focus on the 77 bills Senator Clinton sponsored or cosponsored that that became law (although she introduced more than 2000, so imagine what could’ve happened with a Democratic majority):
Of the 70 GOP senators she worked alongside, a whopping 56 of them co-sponsored at least one bill with her.
That’s 80%
That’s the “4 out of 5 dentists recommend…!” tier of approval
(and STILL you get people trying to spin that as proof that she’s not bipartisan!)
2001: Clinton was “instrumental” in getting federal aid for NYC after 9/11
Then in getting medical treatment for first responders
And it’s not just the people close to home she works for: check out the Afghan Women and Children Relief Act, to “provide urgent funds for immunisation, basic education and other assistance to vulnerable women and children, including refugees.”
You like research and care for leukemia and other blood cancers, right? So does HRC
You like research and care for breast/cervical cancer, right? And you think Native American women should be covered by the treatment options? So does HRC
2002: Requiring pharmaceutical companies to do specific research on the effects their drugs have on children, and label accordingly
Pediatricians talk about how this has led to real, substantial improvements in their ability to treat kids
2003: You like research and care for West Nile and other mosquito-borne viruses, right? So does HRC
Congress’ very first nanotech bill, authorizing R&D funds
2004: Creating a State Department envoy to monitor and combat anti-Semitism
Try to look this one up and most of what you’ll get is furious articles from Stormfront
2006: You like research and care for babies born prematurely, right? So does HRC – and the March of Dimes loves it
Protecting people in the armed forces from predatory insurance schemes
Improving our preparedness for public health emergencies, including funding for NHS workers, more consideration for at-risk individuals, and uniform coordination of electronic response systems across states
Look, I’m not saying there will be a zombie apocalypse
I’m just saying, HRC has taken into account the needs of children, people with disabilities, and people with limited English if there’s a zombie apocalypse
2008: You like research and care for traumatic brain injuries, right? So does HRC
You like early screening and care for congenital disorders that show up in newborns, right? So does HRC
There’s a whole package of amendments to the Americans with Disabilities Act to make it apply more broadly, which, again, just go read the whole thing, it’s worth it
You like research and treatment for ALS, right? “A nationwide registry will help us learn what causes ALS, how it can be effectively diagnosed and treated, and ultimately how it can be cured. This is a tremendous victory.”
btw, this was 6 years before the Ice Bucket Challenge
Hillary Clinton: Cares About Stuff Before It Goes Viral
Mapping broadband access across the US, particularly in rural and native communities, so we can compare our progress to other countries and identify barriers for getting high-speed internet access everywhere
Hey, Tumblr, you care about keeping sexual predators from targeting children online, right? Here’s a bill with a ton of provisions going at that
2009: the Lily Ledbetter Fair Pay Act, which is still having real-world effects as it lets women and minorities sue for equal paychecks
At this point she was also running for President, but in swept Barack Obama and charmed the hearts of America, so Clinton ended up serving as his Secretary of State from 2009-2013.
There’s no Big Flashy Showpiece you can point to from Secretary Clinton’s tenure. A lot of her diplomatic work was straight-up post-Bush-administration repair work and maintenance. A lot of it was, frankly, unsexy. No one writes breathless headlines about statistically-supported initiatives to distribute lifesaving low-pollution stoves.
Also, she didn’t singlehandedly bring peace to the Middle East. So, y’know, missed opportunity there.
But she was obviously doing something right, because Hillary Clinton had a 69% approval rating when she left the State Department in 2013.
A quick roundup of some things Secretary Clinton pulled off just fine:
Visited more countries than any Secretary of State in US history
Seriously, she spent the equivalent of 87 full days on airplanes
Do not talk to Clinton about stamina
2009: Policy nerd Hillary gave the State Department internal reviews and long-term planning on a level they had literally never done before
(I told you some of this was unsexy)
2010: Did you know we had a 25-year loss of military defense ties with New Zealand? Yeah, HRC fixed that
“Clinton enacted a new rule making it easier for transgender people to register their identities on their passports. […] At the time, this was the most pro-transgender action by the federal government ever, and—coming a full six years before the Pentagon announced transgender troops could serve openly—it stands as one of the most progressive things Clinton has ever done.”
2011: pledging disaster relief for Japan after the earthquake and tsunami
Oh, and the team behind the takedown of bin Laden
When surveyed a few months after that, a third of Americans believed Clinton would’ve been a better president than Obama
2012: Negotiated an unexpected ceasefire in Gaza between Israel and Hamas
and hey, you want to talk about business experience?
Clinton’s State Department helped clinch a bunch of business contracts between US companies with foreign governments
Notables: Boeing and Russia in 2009, Lockheed Martin and Japan in 2011, Space Systems/Loral and Australia in 2012
”…the State Department’s 2012 fiscal-year request includes $1.2 billion in programs specifically targeting women, $832 million of which will go toward global health initiatives. Tellingly, comparisons with past years can’t be made, since the department only started tracking women-focused dollars in 2010.“
People keep talking about how Clinton is, historically, one of the most unpopular presidential candidates. Those people usually don’t mention how, three years ago, she was the most popular politician in the United States.
And, look: no one is saying she’s only done good things. You can’t work this long in politics and expect to make only the right choices – follow only the strongest intelligence – back only the best policies. Reasonable people can find plenty to disagree with in her record. Plenty to criticize.
But when people try to claim she’s done nothing?
Or that she doesn’t have any consistent beliefs or principles – that her record doesn’t have constant themes that she’s been reliably standing for since the 1970s?
Hillary Clinton has made real, substantial progress for women’s rights.
Real, substantial progress for people with disabilities.
Real, substantial progress for the rights and protections of children.
Anyone tries to tell you otherwise, you laugh in their faces and start listing things. I bet you anything they run out of patience before you run out of list.
bicatperson:
Yeah, okay, I’m gonna do one more of these.
Because it’s an ugly sexist myth that Hillary Clinton has never gotten anything done, and Donald keeps saying it anyway, because he knows his supporters will never bother to look it up. (Also to distract from his own record of bankruptcies and lawsuits and not getting an Emmy.)
And even on the left, you get people saying “how can we trust Clinton, even if her positions sound good, how can we know if she’ll follow through?”
Gee, I dunno, maybe we can look at her forty-year track record and extrapolate from there.
(Buckle up, this one’s gonna get long.)
In fact, let’s go back farther, let’s look at Hillary Rodham the Wellesley undergrad, 1965-1969:
This kid pushed for everything from “increasing the number of black students and faculty members” to “a better system for returning library books
Seriously, Hillary did more to advance racial justice while she was in college than Trump has done in his entire life
…and one friend remembers her as the only white person who called with sympathy when MLK was shot
And then let’s talk about Hillary the law student, lawyer, and professor, with some First Lady of Arkansas thrown in:
1972: went undercover to expose secret illegal segregation in Arkansas private schools
1973: went door-to-door for the Children’s Defense Fund, looking for people whose kids weren’t getting to school, and asking why
Turns out the reason was usually “the school can’t handle my kid’s disability”
In fact, pre-1975: “U.S. public schools accommodated only 1 out of 5 children with disabilities. Until that time, many states had laws that explicitly excluded children with certain types of disabilities from attending public school.”
HRC researched and helped prepare the CDF report that was a major catalyst for the US finally making that illegal
1975: you may have heard that this was the year when Hillary was the (court-appointed) defense attorney for a rapist (who pled guilty)
but you probably haven’t heard what she did next:
She founded the first rape-crisis counseling hotline in Arkansas
And this was not a symbolic gesture
This was not something she halfassed for the sake of looking good
Hillary made herself a nationally-renowned expert in the field
Listen: “In 1975, I helped start the first rape crisis center in Atlanta. I was trying to navigate the legal issues related to child assault victims, but the law was so new, I was lost, so I asked for help. Everywhere I called, the experts would say, ‘Do you know Hillary Rodham? She’s who you need to talk to.‘”
1977: co-founded Arkansas Advocates for Children and Families, a nonprofit that’s still going strong
And worked for the Legal Services Corporation – a government service that makes sure low-income people can get attorneys – under Jimmy Carter
Note that conservatives hate the LSC, in part because it was openly serving gay clients in the ‘70s
Seriously, open this Heritage Foundation screed and skip to the bit about “homosexual activists”
(or just read the whole thing, it’s great)
With HRC’s chairmanship, that agency tripled its budget
1979: chair of a committee that expanded healthcare access into rural Arkansas! and helped establish the state’s first neonatal nursery! and a program to help parents of preschool-age at-risk children!
Let’s talk about First Lady Clinton, 1993-2001:
1994: (movie trailer voice) In A World where gay sex was literally illegal … where gay people were thrown out of the military, to laughter and applause on the Senate floor … One Political Couple had a politically radioactive idea: what if we stopped doing that?
1995: Hillary fought for mental health care for Gulf War veterans, back when the Defense Department hadn’t even worked out that Gulf War PTSD and chemical-warfare-related health issues were a thing
1997: long before Obamacare, the Children’s Health Insurance Program
More than 8 million children got health insurance
HRC wasn’t even in Congress yet, and her efforts were pivotal in getting the law passed – and then translating it into action
Same with the Adoption and Safe Families Act, “the most significant change in federal child-protection policy in almost two decades”
Note: “it expands both adoptions and federal assistance in general to a wider population of Americans — single adults, including lesbians and gay men, even single elderly people — people usually left out of family focused agenda”
1999: Followed that up with the Foster Care Independence Act, making sure kids who have aged out of the foster care system could get things like healthcare, housing assistance, and counseling
HRC followed that by immediately getting elected Senator from New York, and then re-elected by an even wider margin, so she served from 2001-2009.
I’m just gonna focus on the 77 bills Senator Clinton sponsored or cosponsored that that became law (although she introduced more than 2000, so imagine what could’ve happened with a Democratic majority):
Of the 70 GOP senators she worked alongside, a whopping 56 of them co-sponsored at least one bill with her.
That’s 80%
That’s the “4 out of 5 dentists recommend…!” tier of approval
(and STILL you get people trying to spin that as proof that she’s not bipartisan!)
2001: Clinton was “instrumental” in getting federal aid for NYC after 9/11
Then in getting medical treatment for first responders
And it’s not just the people close to home she works for: check out the Afghan Women and Children Relief Act, to “provide urgent funds for immunisation, basic education and other assistance to vulnerable women and children, including refugees.”
You like research and care for leukemia and other blood cancers, right? So does HRC
You like research and care for breast/cervical cancer, right? And you think Native American women should be covered by the treatment options? So does HRC
2002: Requiring pharmaceutical companies to do specific research on the effects their drugs have on children, and label accordingly
Pediatricians talk about how this has led to real, substantial improvements in their ability to treat kids
2003: You like research and care for West Nile and other mosquito-borne viruses, right? So does HRC
Congress’ very first nanotech bill, authorizing R&D funds
2004: Creating a State Department envoy to monitor and combat anti-Semitism
Try to look this one up and most of what you’ll get is furious articles from Stormfront
2006: You like research and care for babies born prematurely, right? So does HRC – and the March of Dimes loves it
Protecting people in the armed forces from predatory insurance schemes
Improving our preparedness for public health emergencies, including funding for NHS workers, more consideration for at-risk individuals, and uniform coordination of electronic response systems across states
Look, I’m not saying there will be a zombie apocalypse
I’m just saying, HRC has taken into account the needs of children, people with disabilities, and people with limited English if there’s a zombie apocalypse
2008: You like research and care for traumatic brain injuries, right? So does HRC
You like early screening and care for congenital disorders that show up in newborns, right? So does HRC
There’s a whole package of amendments to the Americans with Disabilities Act to make it apply more broadly, which, again, just go read the whole thing, it’s worth it
You like research and treatment for ALS, right? “A nationwide registry will help us learn what causes ALS, how it can be effectively diagnosed and treated, and ultimately how it can be cured. This is a tremendous victory.”
btw, this was 6 years before the Ice Bucket Challenge
Hillary Clinton: Cares About Stuff Before It Goes Viral
Mapping broadband access across the US, particularly in rural and native communities, so we can compare our progress to other countries and identify barriers for getting high-speed internet access everywhere
Hey, Tumblr, you care about keeping sexual predators from targeting children online, right? Here’s a bill with a ton of provisions going at that
2009: the Lily Ledbetter Fair Pay Act, which is still having real-world effects as it lets women and minorities sue for equal paychecks
At this point she was also running for President, but in swept Barack Obama and charmed the hearts of America, so Clinton ended up serving as his Secretary of State from 2009-2013.
There’s no Big Flashy Showpiece you can point to from Secretary Clinton’s tenure. A lot of her diplomatic work was straight-up post-Bush-administration repair work and maintenance. A lot of it was, frankly, unsexy. No one writes breathless headlines about statistically-supported initiatives to distribute lifesaving low-pollution stoves.
Also, she didn’t singlehandedly bring peace to the Middle East. So, y’know, missed opportunity there.
But she was obviously doing something right, because Hillary Clinton had a 69% approval rating when she left the State Department in 2013.
A quick roundup of some things Secretary Clinton pulled off just fine:
Visited more countries than any Secretary of State in US history
Seriously, she spent the equivalent of 87 full days on airplanes
Do not talk to Clinton about stamina
2009: Policy nerd Hillary gave the State Department internal reviews and long-term planning on a level they had literally never done before
(I told you some of this was unsexy)
2010: Did you know we had a 25-year loss of military defense ties with New Zealand? Yeah, HRC fixed that
“Clinton enacted a new rule making it easier for transgender people to register their identities on their passports. […] At the time, this was the most pro-transgender action by the federal government ever, and—coming a full six years before the Pentagon announced transgender troops could serve openly—it stands as one of the most progressive things Clinton has ever done.”
2011: pledging disaster relief for Japan after the earthquake and tsunami
Oh, and the team behind the takedown of bin Laden
When surveyed a few months after that, a third of Americans believed Clinton would’ve been a better president than Obama
2012: Negotiated an unexpected ceasefire in Gaza between Israel and Hamas
and hey, you want to talk about business experience?
Clinton’s State Department helped clinch a bunch of business contracts between US companies with foreign governments
Notables: Boeing and Russia in 2009, Lockheed Martin and Japan in 2011, Space Systems/Loral and Australia in 2012
”…the State Department’s 2012 fiscal-year request includes $1.2 billion in programs specifically targeting women, $832 million of which will go toward global health initiatives. Tellingly, comparisons with past years can’t be made, since the department only started tracking women-focused dollars in 2010.“
People keep talking about how Clinton is, historically, one of the most unpopular presidential candidates. Those people usually don’t mention how, three years ago, she was the most popular politician in the United States.
And, look: no one is saying she’s only done good things. You can’t work this long in politics and expect to make only the right choices – follow only the strongest intelligence – back only the best policies. Reasonable people can find plenty to disagree with in her record. Plenty to criticize.
But when people try to claim she’s done nothing?
Or that she doesn’t have any consistent beliefs or principles – that her record doesn’t have constant themes that she’s been reliably standing for since the 1970s?
Hillary Clinton has made real, substantial progress for women’s rights.
Real, substantial progress for people with disabilities.
Real, substantial progress for the rights and protections of children.
Anyone tries to tell you otherwise, you laugh in their faces and start listing things. I bet you anything they run out of patience before you run out of list.
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Hero Aesthetics → @fleshwerks Laelindalanie Lumelangemine an Taralindalen | Weaver Of Clan Taralind
Are you ready? A thousand voices from a thousand murmured.I am, Lindalan replied.
@lectorel
…this reminds me of certain aspects of the AU we’ve been discussing recently.
Oh, wow. That gives me very strong feeling about the Disva and their agent, yeah. I’m saving this.
hamelin-born:
luciferesque:
Hero Aesthetics → @fleshwerks Laelindalanie Lumelangemine an Taralindalen | Weaver Of Clan Taralind
Are you ready? A thousand voices from a thousand murmured.I am, Lindalan replied.
@lectorel
…this reminds me of certain aspects of the AU we’ve been discussing recently.
Oh, wow. That gives me very strong feeling about the Disva and their agent, yeah. I’m saving this.
NaNoWriMo snippet: What is evil?
Nov. 4th, 2016 02:23 amvia http://ift.tt/2etn8Fq:
“Evil is … Well, that’s a complicated question. People, situations, they can be harmful, can oppose you or put themselves in opposition to you without being ‘evil’. Ignorance, carelessness, pain directed outward, loyalty, need, hunger, anger - there’s always a reason, however good or bad.
It’s comforting to say something pat and simple like 'evil is form of endless greed’, 'evil is intent to harm’, but -
Picture this. You are responsible for a small country. Your farmland has soured, your people are starving. Your neighbors to the west have arable land, that you have tried to buy from them without effect. Is it evil, to invade and steal their land? Is evil not to?
It seems dangerous, to label anything as 'evil’. Call it a threat, name it as a cause of harm. But 'evil’ is final, in a way. It shuts down empathy, keeps us from asking why someone does what they do. And we may miss when we are the ones doing harm through ignorance or lack of care, because we think we must or because we don’t see our enemies as people.
I don’t know what the answer is. I don’t know if there is an answer. But I find myself suspicious of those with a too-ready answer to the question.”
“Evil is … Well, that’s a complicated question. People, situations, they can be harmful, can oppose you or put themselves in opposition to you without being ‘evil’. Ignorance, carelessness, pain directed outward, loyalty, need, hunger, anger - there’s always a reason, however good or bad.
It’s comforting to say something pat and simple like 'evil is form of endless greed’, 'evil is intent to harm’, but -
Picture this. You are responsible for a small country. Your farmland has soured, your people are starving. Your neighbors to the west have arable land, that you have tried to buy from them without effect. Is it evil, to invade and steal their land? Is evil not to?
It seems dangerous, to label anything as 'evil’. Call it a threat, name it as a cause of harm. But 'evil’ is final, in a way. It shuts down empathy, keeps us from asking why someone does what they do. And we may miss when we are the ones doing harm through ignorance or lack of care, because we think we must or because we don’t see our enemies as people.
I don’t know what the answer is. I don’t know if there is an answer. But I find myself suspicious of those with a too-ready answer to the question.”
Help? Please?
Oct. 28th, 2016 02:46 amvia http://ift.tt/2eBmp5M:
phoenixyfriend:
electraposts:
lectorel:
Oh fuck I have a job interview. Fuck. Why did I apply to an office job, why did I think I was qualified, shit shit shit, what the hell do you even wear to an interview for an adminstrative assistant position? I need nice shoes don’t I?
Hello yes, I would say nice shoes would be a good idea, but they don’t have to be remarkable. For an interview for anything outside of a fashion industry job, it’s almost always better to strive for the most generic office worker look than to showcase your aesthetic or that you’ve got good taste. Black slacks or skirt, white shirt, sheer tights if you’re wearing a skirt, hair either pulled back or neatened without any big accessories, and one or two “extras” like a watch or a relatively plain necklace. If you can’t hit that look for budget or other reasons, try to get as close as possible- dark blue is better than brown, for example, and peaches or light blues for the shirts are better than bolder colors. If you are going to wear something patterned, smaller print is better. If you think the office is more formal, a suit jacket might not be out of place. A formality middle ground is a structured jacket or nice cardigan, in an unremarkable but nice color or print. But I know suits are expensive and you might not own one if you’ve never had an office job. It’s better to be neat and in a nice blouse than sloppy in a suit.
If it would make you feel better, I would be more than happy to offer input on any outfits you put together or shoes you pick. I bet you can do this job- competency and attitude are more important than past experience, but yours must still be solid if you got called in to interview. Whether or not you get the job, I think you should know that you can almost certainly do it. You’ve clearly got organizational skills, the ability to research, and history at keeping track of a large amount of information and forming judgements and opinions based on it. Those are real skills that are very useful in an office environment.
If you need something to talk about in regards to your personal character, I think you can definitely say you’ve got an ability to approach a situation from multiple perspectives and incorporate a lot of information into forming an effective plan of action. I’m sure there’s an anecdote in your history you can use as evidence for that if asked. I’m rooting for you!
HELLO So I dug through my adulthood tag for some posts that might help?
Common Interview Questions (with links at the end for more interview stuff, including clothing tips, hella)
Ask a Manager’s Interview Guide
More interview stuff!
Here’s more about interview questions!
Some articles with cool infographics about what to wear to work and interviews (all pretty gendered, but we all know what to expect when it comes to the business world and clothing):
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http://ift.tt/1SSnEtw
Interview Infographics: (1) (2) (3) (4) (5)
Some of these are probably going to be more helpful than others, but I hoped I helped?
Both of you were very helpful, thank you, @electraposts, @phoenixyfriend, I’m much less panicked now. Interview’s tomorrow morning, we’ll see how it goes.
phoenixyfriend:
electraposts:
lectorel:
Oh fuck I have a job interview. Fuck. Why did I apply to an office job, why did I think I was qualified, shit shit shit, what the hell do you even wear to an interview for an adminstrative assistant position? I need nice shoes don’t I?
Hello yes, I would say nice shoes would be a good idea, but they don’t have to be remarkable. For an interview for anything outside of a fashion industry job, it’s almost always better to strive for the most generic office worker look than to showcase your aesthetic or that you’ve got good taste. Black slacks or skirt, white shirt, sheer tights if you’re wearing a skirt, hair either pulled back or neatened without any big accessories, and one or two “extras” like a watch or a relatively plain necklace. If you can’t hit that look for budget or other reasons, try to get as close as possible- dark blue is better than brown, for example, and peaches or light blues for the shirts are better than bolder colors. If you are going to wear something patterned, smaller print is better. If you think the office is more formal, a suit jacket might not be out of place. A formality middle ground is a structured jacket or nice cardigan, in an unremarkable but nice color or print. But I know suits are expensive and you might not own one if you’ve never had an office job. It’s better to be neat and in a nice blouse than sloppy in a suit.
If it would make you feel better, I would be more than happy to offer input on any outfits you put together or shoes you pick. I bet you can do this job- competency and attitude are more important than past experience, but yours must still be solid if you got called in to interview. Whether or not you get the job, I think you should know that you can almost certainly do it. You’ve clearly got organizational skills, the ability to research, and history at keeping track of a large amount of information and forming judgements and opinions based on it. Those are real skills that are very useful in an office environment.
If you need something to talk about in regards to your personal character, I think you can definitely say you’ve got an ability to approach a situation from multiple perspectives and incorporate a lot of information into forming an effective plan of action. I’m sure there’s an anecdote in your history you can use as evidence for that if asked. I’m rooting for you!
HELLO So I dug through my adulthood tag for some posts that might help?
Common Interview Questions (with links at the end for more interview stuff, including clothing tips, hella)
Ask a Manager’s Interview Guide
More interview stuff!
Here’s more about interview questions!
Some articles with cool infographics about what to wear to work and interviews (all pretty gendered, but we all know what to expect when it comes to the business world and clothing):
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http://ift.tt/1SSnEtw
Interview Infographics: (1) (2) (3) (4) (5)
Some of these are probably going to be more helpful than others, but I hoped I helped?
Both of you were very helpful, thank you, @electraposts, @phoenixyfriend, I’m much less panicked now. Interview’s tomorrow morning, we’ll see how it goes.
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Oh boy. I swear, somebody put something into the expensive bottled water politicians drink, because politics are nuts right now.
Oh boy. I swear, somebody put something into the expensive bottled water politicians drink, because politics are nuts right now.
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This short scene from “Slaves of the Republic” give an interesting insight about Anakin & Jedi Order:
despite living in Jedi Order by ~10 years, Anakin is still traumatized by slavery
looking how Obi-Wan is willing to take a child on dangerous mission and let Ahsoka play the role of slave raises a question about Jedi’s altruism. As much as Obi-Wan’s acceptance for her plan was born from pragmatism (”If you can’t produce a prize valuable enough to bid on you might not even gain admittance to the auction”) there is a little concern for Ahsoka’s safety and how the experience of being / playing slave will affect her afterwards. She may be promising padawan, but she is still a 14? 15? years old kid.
Ahsoka is willing to risk her own safety for people in need but the same as Obi-Wan, she doesn’t really understand slavery and its effect on person so her attitude could sound quite dismissive. That’s why Anakin snapped at her (later, Kenobi admitted his lack of understanding and even said though he was subjected to slavery for a brief time, he can’t imagine living with it everyday)
The fact that Ahsoka thought that playing the role of slave could be seen as similar to being bossed around by her master and how Skywalker reacted [that’s NOT FUNNY] raises a question how young Anakin felt about calling his mentor and other Jedi as [his] masters? Did it bring some traumatic memories? Did anyone explain him it was a way to show a respect toward older person, not some sign of slavery? Was there someone who helped him to adjust into Jedi Order by really understanding his life experiences and not just telling him “let it go”?
I get the feeling that both Ahsoka and Obi-Wan - and probably most of Jedi - didn’t understand slavery and its extremaly traumatic effect on people what at least for me implies that Anakin by ~10 years struggled with his past without much of real support…
cienie-isengardu:
This short scene from “Slaves of the Republic” give an interesting insight about Anakin & Jedi Order:
despite living in Jedi Order by ~10 years, Anakin is still traumatized by slavery
looking how Obi-Wan is willing to take a child on dangerous mission and let Ahsoka play the role of slave raises a question about Jedi’s altruism. As much as Obi-Wan’s acceptance for her plan was born from pragmatism (”If you can’t produce a prize valuable enough to bid on you might not even gain admittance to the auction”) there is a little concern for Ahsoka’s safety and how the experience of being / playing slave will affect her afterwards. She may be promising padawan, but she is still a 14? 15? years old kid.
Ahsoka is willing to risk her own safety for people in need but the same as Obi-Wan, she doesn’t really understand slavery and its effect on person so her attitude could sound quite dismissive. That’s why Anakin snapped at her (later, Kenobi admitted his lack of understanding and even said though he was subjected to slavery for a brief time, he can’t imagine living with it everyday)
The fact that Ahsoka thought that playing the role of slave could be seen as similar to being bossed around by her master and how Skywalker reacted [that’s NOT FUNNY] raises a question how young Anakin felt about calling his mentor and other Jedi as [his] masters? Did it bring some traumatic memories? Did anyone explain him it was a way to show a respect toward older person, not some sign of slavery? Was there someone who helped him to adjust into Jedi Order by really understanding his life experiences and not just telling him “let it go”?
I get the feeling that both Ahsoka and Obi-Wan - and probably most of Jedi - didn’t understand slavery and its extremaly traumatic effect on people what at least for me implies that Anakin by ~10 years struggled with his past without much of real support…
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I want a fantasy world where all buildings are like Baba-Yaga huts and run around on bird legs. And you have to breed and train them.
I have no idea what kind of setting would make this even remotely more practical that just building houses.
Ooh! I’d say some kind of world where the ground is… well, not very stable. My first thought was a swamp, but of course you can always fill those in. So instead, what about a place that’s just very geologically active? Earthquakes, volcanic eruptions, floods, tornados; sure, if you’re rich enough to move to the right place and very lucky you might be able to build a house and not have it destroyed in the first few years, but well, those places are mostly occupied already by kings and the like, and even then it takes luck.
Or, same idea: dragons! Burrowing dragons, specifically. Lots of them. That dig tunnels like moles, and well, you can see where the ground’s been/being disturbed and pushed up and move out of the way before your house falls down into the ground around it–but only if you can move. (The huts, I assume, have some sort of instinctive ability to avoid such dangers, but if you’re breeding them anyway giving them some degree of awareness makes sense.)
(And those legends about how the mountains are only dragon-hills, pushed up by the great old God of dragons in ancient times, and that he still digs deep beneath the surface, that it’s his digging which shakes the earth and his fire that explodes from volcanoes–well, that’s just legends. Probably.)
But now I want to know more about these breedable huts! I’m… picturing something like the catbus, but feathered/bird-based? Or maybe the huts are technically a structure built by colonies of ants/termites, which live beneath the human area and eat food we produce for them, and those are what are technically being bred… that seems less true to the original though.
Ooh, I like the unstable ground.
tbh mine were… very silly, in design, if true to the original, in that they were basically houses on legs. Not especially feathery or biological looking, but definitely acting alive. (What on earth does a house eat? Cement?)
Different types of houses, or even buildings, would be different breeds. If you’re breeding shops you want to breed for large windows. Bungalows are pretty popular.
I’m not sure whether apartments are bred by the block, or just like settling in piles. I’m going to go for the latter, it’s cute. Landlords probably have to herd them using… um… giant house dogs??? Maybe the supervisor’s flat is trained to round up all the others. Keep them in line.
Mansions are really big breeds. As are farmhouses, but farmhouses need to be big. Mansions are honestly kind of impractical.
Hmmm. Cement, or I guess rocks/stones and whatever else goes into cement? Dirt and water, if they build themselves out of mud; wood and plant matter, if they build themselves out of wood or paper.
…Now I’m imagining them as being more like colonies or even just individuals of those paperwasps, or snails. Not moving like snails, of course, but producing a shell like snails, which over time evolved to become or we figured out how to modify into a house….
(I should maybe stop trying to figure out a reasonable evolution of magical living houses.)
Hahahah ohhhhh what happens if you crossbreed them? Are there stray houses running around, awkward crossbreeds with the size of a regular house but the practical layout of a mansion that nobody wants, so they decorate themselves with bright colors like bowerbirds to tempt people to live in them?
You can totally get mongrel houses!
Um, this was more inspired by PK and I both househunting (in my case apartment hunting) than real practical considerations. So, weird houses are a definite thing that happens, and everyone’s like “okay, that’s a weird thing to breed a house for”.
There are probably personality considerations too… a house with a bad temperament would be like a haunted house. One that likes you would manage to feel cosy even if it was full of odd corners and bad design choices.
The snail thing kind of makes sense? Or like caddis flies (which don’t move at all, but you know what I mean). Maybe they’re like… a creature that spreads out through the walls, something very thin… it can produce electricity and secrete (clean!) water to attract humans to live in it.
Although I have the ridiculous idea of them reproducing by… you just find a giant egg in the cupboard under the stairs one day.
…*buries face in hands* No, brain, do not start calling these “Harry houses” now….
Hm! So the houses can pretty well control every part of themselves, then? So they definitely want people living in them; they’re not unable to kick them out, or too limited in their awareness to really realize and have an opinion. What do the houses get out of having people living in them, then? Companionship? Medical care?
(For a very thin creature: some sort of fungus, maybe? Or lichen?)
Also: is finding an egg considered a sign that a kid in the house is supposed to get married soon? And how many relationships have problems because the families get along, the young couple gets along, but the houses HATE each other and won’t go within five miles of each other no matter how they’re bribed? (Is that considered a nuisance, or an omen?)
*laughing* Oh my.
I think the houses get medical care, mostly. Also, whatever they eat, humans probably feed them. (House food bill – still cheaper than electric bills?).
Especially domestic houses… okay, that phrase sounds really weird? But, houses living in built up areas where they need to be fed because the area would be overgrazed with all these houses otherwise.
Whereas houses in less built up areas probably roam around a lot more and find their own food.
(Fungus or slime mold doesn’t explain the feet… unless they build those too? Maybe the creature is the “cement” holding it all together. That would probably require a different means of reproduction…)
Maybe they’re actually just magic? Someone got fed up of their houses constantly sinking/falling over/whatever and decided to magically cross them with birds.
Hee! Traditionally you’d probably give baby houses to your children to raise as their house. These days, at least in cities, probably you sell it to someone with a plot of land to raise it on.
I don’t know how long houses take to grow up. Consider that it might be just as long as humans. You breed your house when your child is young and then they use it as a Wendy House until it (and they) both grow up.
…Pretty sure that someone was a spark. But “because magic” would certainly make the most sense to me….
…I’m sorry my mind immediately jumped to the angst if a kid died young and the house intended for them was just… left. Its human is missing, no one has a use or a place for it anymore, and it doesn’t know what happened or why it just knows it’s alone now. Support groups trying to match houses whose kid died with kids whose house died?
But hmmmm you don’t want to breed a house for every kid, then you end up with families with two houses. Unless marriage isn’t a thing in this culture?
Or if “owns a house/doesn’t own a house” has become a sort of… identity defining thing that you’re supposed to marry someone with the opposite trait, along with or instead of gender. Presumably it’s the rich kids most likely to all have houses because their parents can afford to breed and raise them, so that’s an interesting way to do social mobility…. And of course you could just sell/buy a house, but at the same time, you can’t just sell your house that you raised and bonded with (and if you didn’t raise your house and just bought it, is it really yours?).
(Of course “houses are only bred for sons” is an option too, but that’s boring so I’m ignoring it.)
Ooh, that’s fun.
I’d been thinking modern/city = houses probably bred to sell, country/traditonal = houses bred for children, and with it being connected to land (if you’re breeding a house you’d better have enough land for it to live on once it’s grown.)
But that still works with what you’re suggesting! And I like “marry someone with a house” as a thing. I mean, if two people without houses want to marry they can probaby buy one (actually that was probably a big social thing? People being able to buy houses because people were breeding them to sell not just for their kids).
And if two people who both have houses want to marry they can maybe use one as a holiday home, although I bet houses don’t like only being used in summer! House sitting is probably a whole different thing. As is renting.
Ahahaha what if couples who don’t have a house just… make a career out of house sitting other couples’ vacation homes? They get paid for living somewhere, maybe dealing with the house sulking for a few weeks before it eventually warms up to them (and then sulks again when they leave and the original owners come back, of course, although not quite as much).
…So houses are cats now, apparently.
*laughing*
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I want a fantasy world where all buildings are like Baba-Yaga huts and run around on bird legs. And you have to breed and train them.
I have no idea what kind of setting would make this even remotely more practical that just building houses.
Ooh! I’d say some kind of world where the ground is… well, not very stable. My first thought was a swamp, but of course you can always fill those in. So instead, what about a place that’s just very geologically active? Earthquakes, volcanic eruptions, floods, tornados; sure, if you’re rich enough to move to the right place and very lucky you might be able to build a house and not have it destroyed in the first few years, but well, those places are mostly occupied already by kings and the like, and even then it takes luck.
Or, same idea: dragons! Burrowing dragons, specifically. Lots of them. That dig tunnels like moles, and well, you can see where the ground’s been/being disturbed and pushed up and move out of the way before your house falls down into the ground around it–but only if you can move. (The huts, I assume, have some sort of instinctive ability to avoid such dangers, but if you’re breeding them anyway giving them some degree of awareness makes sense.)
(And those legends about how the mountains are only dragon-hills, pushed up by the great old God of dragons in ancient times, and that he still digs deep beneath the surface, that it’s his digging which shakes the earth and his fire that explodes from volcanoes–well, that’s just legends. Probably.)
But now I want to know more about these breedable huts! I’m… picturing something like the catbus, but feathered/bird-based? Or maybe the huts are technically a structure built by colonies of ants/termites, which live beneath the human area and eat food we produce for them, and those are what are technically being bred… that seems less true to the original though.
Ooh, I like the unstable ground.
tbh mine were… very silly, in design, if true to the original, in that they were basically houses on legs. Not especially feathery or biological looking, but definitely acting alive. (What on earth does a house eat? Cement?)
Different types of houses, or even buildings, would be different breeds. If you’re breeding shops you want to breed for large windows. Bungalows are pretty popular.
I’m not sure whether apartments are bred by the block, or just like settling in piles. I’m going to go for the latter, it’s cute. Landlords probably have to herd them using… um… giant house dogs??? Maybe the supervisor’s flat is trained to round up all the others. Keep them in line.
Mansions are really big breeds. As are farmhouses, but farmhouses need to be big. Mansions are honestly kind of impractical.
Hmmm. Cement, or I guess rocks/stones and whatever else goes into cement? Dirt and water, if they build themselves out of mud; wood and plant matter, if they build themselves out of wood or paper.
…Now I’m imagining them as being more like colonies or even just individuals of those paperwasps, or snails. Not moving like snails, of course, but producing a shell like snails, which over time evolved to become or we figured out how to modify into a house….
(I should maybe stop trying to figure out a reasonable evolution of magical living houses.)
Hahahah ohhhhh what happens if you crossbreed them? Are there stray houses running around, awkward crossbreeds with the size of a regular house but the practical layout of a mansion that nobody wants, so they decorate themselves with bright colors like bowerbirds to tempt people to live in them?
You can totally get mongrel houses!
Um, this was more inspired by PK and I both househunting (in my case apartment hunting) than real practical considerations. So, weird houses are a definite thing that happens, and everyone’s like “okay, that’s a weird thing to breed a house for”.
There are probably personality considerations too… a house with a bad temperament would be like a haunted house. One that likes you would manage to feel cosy even if it was full of odd corners and bad design choices.
The snail thing kind of makes sense? Or like caddis flies (which don’t move at all, but you know what I mean). Maybe they’re like… a creature that spreads out through the walls, something very thin… it can produce electricity and secrete (clean!) water to attract humans to live in it.
Although I have the ridiculous idea of them reproducing by… you just find a giant egg in the cupboard under the stairs one day.
…*buries face in hands* No, brain, do not start calling these “Harry houses” now….
Hm! So the houses can pretty well control every part of themselves, then? So they definitely want people living in them; they’re not unable to kick them out, or too limited in their awareness to really realize and have an opinion. What do the houses get out of having people living in them, then? Companionship? Medical care?
(For a very thin creature: some sort of fungus, maybe? Or lichen?)
Also: is finding an egg considered a sign that a kid in the house is supposed to get married soon? And how many relationships have problems because the families get along, the young couple gets along, but the houses HATE each other and won’t go within five miles of each other no matter how they’re bribed? (Is that considered a nuisance, or an omen?)
*laughing* Oh my.
I think the houses get medical care, mostly. Also, whatever they eat, humans probably feed them. (House food bill – still cheaper than electric bills?).
Especially domestic houses… okay, that phrase sounds really weird? But, houses living in built up areas where they need to be fed because the area would be overgrazed with all these houses otherwise.
Whereas houses in less built up areas probably roam around a lot more and find their own food.
(Fungus or slime mold doesn’t explain the feet… unless they build those too? Maybe the creature is the “cement” holding it all together. That would probably require a different means of reproduction…)
Maybe they’re actually just magic? Someone got fed up of their houses constantly sinking/falling over/whatever and decided to magically cross them with birds.
Hee! Traditionally you’d probably give baby houses to your children to raise as their house. These days, at least in cities, probably you sell it to someone with a plot of land to raise it on.
I don’t know how long houses take to grow up. Consider that it might be just as long as humans. You breed your house when your child is young and then they use it as a Wendy House until it (and they) both grow up.
…Pretty sure that someone was a spark. But “because magic” would certainly make the most sense to me….
…I’m sorry my mind immediately jumped to the angst if a kid died young and the house intended for them was just… left. Its human is missing, no one has a use or a place for it anymore, and it doesn’t know what happened or why it just knows it’s alone now. Support groups trying to match houses whose kid died with kids whose house died?
But hmmmm you don’t want to breed a house for every kid, then you end up with families with two houses. Unless marriage isn’t a thing in this culture?
Or if “owns a house/doesn’t own a house” has become a sort of… identity defining thing that you’re supposed to marry someone with the opposite trait, along with or instead of gender. Presumably it’s the rich kids most likely to all have houses because their parents can afford to breed and raise them, so that’s an interesting way to do social mobility…. And of course you could just sell/buy a house, but at the same time, you can’t just sell your house that you raised and bonded with (and if you didn’t raise your house and just bought it, is it really yours?).
(Of course “houses are only bred for sons” is an option too, but that’s boring so I’m ignoring it.)
Ooh, that’s fun.
I’d been thinking modern/city = houses probably bred to sell, country/traditonal = houses bred for children, and with it being connected to land (if you’re breeding a house you’d better have enough land for it to live on once it’s grown.)
But that still works with what you’re suggesting! And I like “marry someone with a house” as a thing. I mean, if two people without houses want to marry they can probaby buy one (actually that was probably a big social thing? People being able to buy houses because people were breeding them to sell not just for their kids).
And if two people who both have houses want to marry they can maybe use one as a holiday home, although I bet houses don’t like only being used in summer! House sitting is probably a whole different thing. As is renting.
Ahahaha what if couples who don’t have a house just… make a career out of house sitting other couples’ vacation homes? They get paid for living somewhere, maybe dealing with the house sulking for a few weeks before it eventually warms up to them (and then sulks again when they leave and the original owners come back, of course, although not quite as much).
…So houses are cats now, apparently.
*laughing*
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Oh fuck I have a job interview. Fuck. Why did I apply to an office job, why did I think I was qualified, shit shit shit, what the hell do you even wear to an interview for an adminstrative assistant position? I need nice shoes don’t I?
Oh fuck I have a job interview. Fuck. Why did I apply to an office job, why did I think I was qualified, shit shit shit, what the hell do you even wear to an interview for an adminstrative assistant position? I need nice shoes don’t I?
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Abusers are really good at is making you feel like your anger is worse than their abuse.
This is so important. Many survivors have spent months or years not being allowed to express anger or being made to feel ashamed for experiencing anger.
So if you know a survivor, and you tell them that they “can’t” or “shouldn’t” be angry, that will almost certainly be triggering, and it’s really cruel.
Telling survivors that they need to “get past” their anger or to “be the bigger person” or “holding onto anger is like holding onto a hot coal” or “anger is like drinking poison and expecting someone else to die” or that “healing is only possible with forgiveness” or that “forgiveness will set you free,” or that “being angry means the abuser still has control,” or that experiencing anger makes the survivor as bad as the abuser, or whatever else– that’s culturally imposed abuse apologism and if you want to be an ally, you need to unlearn resorting to those platitudes when trying to comfort survivors.
It’s okay to experience anger. It’s literally the natural reaction to boundary violation, and when someone’s boundaries have been repeatedly violated and broken down for years, it’s important for a person’s health to be able to experience and express that anger. It honestly really is.
THIS IS SO IMPORTANT.
Being able to admit you are angry and not be upset at yourself for it is so so so important to the healing process. I’d even argue that one of the most important parts of the healing process is to acknowledge your anger and to let yourself feel it without guilt. Repressing any emotion is bad, and anger is just as important and acceptable as all the others.
Never forget: Your anger is valid. It is real and you are not a bad person for feeling it. Do not let anyone ever try to convince you otherwise. The people who try to do not understand.
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friendlyangryfeminist:
Abusers are really good at is making you feel like your anger is worse than their abuse.
This is so important. Many survivors have spent months or years not being allowed to express anger or being made to feel ashamed for experiencing anger.
So if you know a survivor, and you tell them that they “can’t” or “shouldn’t” be angry, that will almost certainly be triggering, and it’s really cruel.
Telling survivors that they need to “get past” their anger or to “be the bigger person” or “holding onto anger is like holding onto a hot coal” or “anger is like drinking poison and expecting someone else to die” or that “healing is only possible with forgiveness” or that “forgiveness will set you free,” or that “being angry means the abuser still has control,” or that experiencing anger makes the survivor as bad as the abuser, or whatever else– that’s culturally imposed abuse apologism and if you want to be an ally, you need to unlearn resorting to those platitudes when trying to comfort survivors.
It’s okay to experience anger. It’s literally the natural reaction to boundary violation, and when someone’s boundaries have been repeatedly violated and broken down for years, it’s important for a person’s health to be able to experience and express that anger. It honestly really is.
THIS IS SO IMPORTANT.
Being able to admit you are angry and not be upset at yourself for it is so so so important to the healing process. I’d even argue that one of the most important parts of the healing process is to acknowledge your anger and to let yourself feel it without guilt. Repressing any emotion is bad, and anger is just as important and acceptable as all the others.
Never forget: Your anger is valid. It is real and you are not a bad person for feeling it. Do not let anyone ever try to convince you otherwise. The people who try to do not understand.
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I am stalled on plotting - there’s this big, uncertain area about how to create/handle generation 1.5, and I’m not sure whether to go with a cut straight to the reveal of Yoko’s existence, or to do the back story stuff first.
Plus my depression has been kind of a dick lately in regards to creative work. (Damn brain weasels.) I’m getting my meds adjusted soon, so we’ll see if that helps anything.
In the meantime, nonny, I’d love to hear what you want to see happen in the Yoko Verse. Maybe it’ll spark some ideas for me.
I am stalled on plotting - there’s this big, uncertain area about how to create/handle generation 1.5, and I’m not sure whether to go with a cut straight to the reveal of Yoko’s existence, or to do the back story stuff first.
Plus my depression has been kind of a dick lately in regards to creative work. (Damn brain weasels.) I’m getting my meds adjusted soon, so we’ll see if that helps anything.
In the meantime, nonny, I’d love to hear what you want to see happen in the Yoko Verse. Maybe it’ll spark some ideas for me.
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“We need someone who knows how to run things… maybe we need a businessman to run the country, someone who won’t line their pockets.”
- My Trump-supporting co-workers, who do not see the irony of what they just said. they’re assholes (and rape-apologists. It’s amazing how much shit they’re willing to believe about Hillary Clinton, but multiple women accusing Trump of rape? Making it up. Fuck them.)
“We need someone who knows how to run things… maybe we need a businessman to run the country, someone who won’t line their pockets.”
- My Trump-supporting co-workers, who do not see the irony of what they just said. they’re assholes (and rape-apologists. It’s amazing how much shit they’re willing to believe about Hillary Clinton, but multiple women accusing Trump of rape? Making it up. Fuck them.)
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I was told the average for this job was 20 hours a week, and that I could easily pick up 25-30 if I wanted. They said the schedule came out two weeks in advance.
Fucking lies. And I’m sure they did it on purpose, I wouldn’t have taken this job if I knew the truth.
I was told the average for this job was 20 hours a week, and that I could easily pick up 25-30 if I wanted. They said the schedule came out two weeks in advance.
Fucking lies. And I’m sure they did it on purpose, I wouldn’t have taken this job if I knew the truth.
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My cat is an expensive little thing, Jeez. Dental work is ridiculously pricy.
My cat is an expensive little thing, Jeez. Dental work is ridiculously pricy.
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the6thsiren:
As you may already know, Donald Trump is enlisting poll watchers to monitor the Nov. 8th election. He has ordered them to look out for suspicious looking voters and ensure people aren’t voting over and over. Let me make this clear: many people, specifically Black and brown voters, are going to be singled out. People are going to be targeted on discriminatory grounds. Historically poll watchers have targeted people of color and it’s going to be no different this year, likely even worse.
In the past poll watchers have worked to intimidate voters, outright lie to them, and interfering with the process enough to cause chaos and discourage people from remaining in long lines. Poll watchers are permitted to challenge citizens in nearly every state and each state varies in terms of how much power they get. Some states require *very* little justification for challenging a voter, some require specific grounds, while others just let anyone be challenged based off of “suspicion.” If you are challenged immediately ask on what grounds, how they are backing those claims up, and what your state’s procedures regarding voter challenges.
So what happens if you are being challenged at the polls? Some states will ask you questions, have you sign an affidavit, force you to provide multiple forms of identification proving who you are and/or your current address, find another voter who can vouch for your identity, fill out a provisional ballot that will be verified later, or a mixture of these. Note: there is no assurance that your provisional ballot will be counted. Do not accept one of these without a fight, insist on a real ballot.
If you are being unfairly targeted there will also be nonpartisan poll watchers from civil rights committees there to help. They are there to help voters who are encountering problems and will have phone hotlines available as well. Here is their website with the phone numbers you can call, multiple language options available. These poll challenges are often done to disrupt the voting process more than anything, to discourage you from casting a vote by wasting your time. Know your rights and know how you can prepare yourself if this happens.
Finally, if you want to avoid this hassle all together you still have time to sign up for a mail-in ballot. All state’s deadlines are soon (the last couple days of Oct. or the first couple days of Nov.) so sign up ASAP. I’d also suggest clicking here which helps you find out more information about your state’s voting requirements, how to vote, and where to vote near you. Just use the drop down menu and find your state for more information. And even if you are registered to vote I would recommend clicking on the link under “Check if you’re registered to vote.” There were a lot of problems regarding that matter in my state so it’s good to check.
the6thsiren:
As you may already know, Donald Trump is enlisting poll watchers to monitor the Nov. 8th election. He has ordered them to look out for suspicious looking voters and ensure people aren’t voting over and over. Let me make this clear: many people, specifically Black and brown voters, are going to be singled out. People are going to be targeted on discriminatory grounds. Historically poll watchers have targeted people of color and it’s going to be no different this year, likely even worse.
In the past poll watchers have worked to intimidate voters, outright lie to them, and interfering with the process enough to cause chaos and discourage people from remaining in long lines. Poll watchers are permitted to challenge citizens in nearly every state and each state varies in terms of how much power they get. Some states require *very* little justification for challenging a voter, some require specific grounds, while others just let anyone be challenged based off of “suspicion.” If you are challenged immediately ask on what grounds, how they are backing those claims up, and what your state’s procedures regarding voter challenges.
So what happens if you are being challenged at the polls? Some states will ask you questions, have you sign an affidavit, force you to provide multiple forms of identification proving who you are and/or your current address, find another voter who can vouch for your identity, fill out a provisional ballot that will be verified later, or a mixture of these. Note: there is no assurance that your provisional ballot will be counted. Do not accept one of these without a fight, insist on a real ballot.
If you are being unfairly targeted there will also be nonpartisan poll watchers from civil rights committees there to help. They are there to help voters who are encountering problems and will have phone hotlines available as well. Here is their website with the phone numbers you can call, multiple language options available. These poll challenges are often done to disrupt the voting process more than anything, to discourage you from casting a vote by wasting your time. Know your rights and know how you can prepare yourself if this happens.
Finally, if you want to avoid this hassle all together you still have time to sign up for a mail-in ballot. All state’s deadlines are soon (the last couple days of Oct. or the first couple days of Nov.) so sign up ASAP. I’d also suggest clicking here which helps you find out more information about your state’s voting requirements, how to vote, and where to vote near you. Just use the drop down menu and find your state for more information. And even if you are registered to vote I would recommend clicking on the link under “Check if you’re registered to vote.” There were a lot of problems regarding that matter in my state so it’s good to check.
